tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post8685798581032389333..comments2024-03-05T15:05:07.268-06:00Comments on A Beautiful Ruckus: No Apologies for the "Non-Mom" Part of MeThe Ishum Familyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12206714813246556353noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-65282614052125233492013-03-21T21:48:59.769-05:002013-03-21T21:48:59.769-05:00All moms (of any number of children!) need to rech...All moms (of any number of children!) need to recharge. I'm glad that you've made time for that!Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-22307643745427862632013-03-21T21:47:34.841-05:002013-03-21T21:47:34.841-05:00See, now your version of recharging would NOT be m...See, now your version of recharging would NOT be my version of recharging. I try not to move more than I have to (thanks, kids!). But I love that there are so many different types of recharging out there! I hope the snow melts quickly enough that you can play on Tuesday!Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-42166709529037686012013-03-21T21:46:03.431-05:002013-03-21T21:46:03.431-05:00Thank you!Thank you!Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-42676620709772028582013-03-21T21:45:37.082-05:002013-03-21T21:45:37.082-05:00Sadness. I've seen that too, and it breaks my ...Sadness. I've seen that too, and it breaks my heart. The whole family structure starts to suffer if mom and dad are stable. Marriage definitely needs to be the primary relationship!Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-83200692309693235642013-03-21T21:44:36.277-05:002013-03-21T21:44:36.277-05:00Sounds like we are pretty similar in our reasons w...Sounds like we are pretty similar in our reasons why we write and how we relax. I can't imagine NOT documenting our lives and God's faithfulness for future generations (can you imagine our grandkids reading what we are writing??).<br /><br />And may I just say...nap rock! :)Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-35734940890218044332013-03-21T21:42:38.724-05:002013-03-21T21:42:38.724-05:00Definitely! I think heaping guilt on a child's...Definitely! I think heaping guilt on a child's head because they have become an inconvenience can definitely cause more long-term damage than just taking a few minutes to recharge. Every mom is different, and as long as the kids can't get in trouble or hurt, they should give themselves permission to kick back for a minute. Well said, Kristina!Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-49264634088599256362013-03-21T21:40:31.702-05:002013-03-21T21:40:31.702-05:00Well said! I do have friends who don't get why...Well said! I do have friends who don't get why writing is relaxing, but they have their own methods of letting their hair down. I think it's awesome when a mom is confident enough to take some time for herself!Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-23857118680860730152013-03-21T21:39:12.969-05:002013-03-21T21:39:12.969-05:00My husband is always telling me not to feel guilt ...My husband is always telling me not to feel guilt about relaxing a bit. I'm an over-apologize-r, and I know it drives him nuts! I'm glad you have a supportive husband and mom! That can make all the difference when it comes to sanity!Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-61961904674444220872013-03-21T21:37:31.816-05:002013-03-21T21:37:31.816-05:00Writing can be very therapeutic for a lot of peopl...Writing can be very therapeutic for a lot of people, but then I also have a lot of friends who would consider it work. I hope every mom learns to give herself permission to recharge...no matter what that looks like. (I personally like to blog with the TV on in the background, so I guess I do both!)Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-41608299917869607942013-03-21T21:34:33.811-05:002013-03-21T21:34:33.811-05:00Yay! It's so nice to hear that from someone wh...Yay! It's so nice to hear that from someone who is living life after the kids have moved out! Thank you for leaving a comment! :)Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-89116438591027186902013-03-21T21:33:12.182-05:002013-03-21T21:33:12.182-05:00Thank you! I'm blessed enough to have some awe...Thank you! I'm blessed enough to have some awesome ladies as my inspiration!Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-14814975956654095202013-03-21T21:32:37.912-05:002013-03-21T21:32:37.912-05:00:):)Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-21942218756390258382013-03-21T21:32:23.009-05:002013-03-21T21:32:23.009-05:00Thank you for always commenting and encouraging me...Thank you for always commenting and encouraging me, Tina! It is SO appreciated, especially on days that are a heavy load.Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-7089237009375345692013-03-21T21:31:36.197-05:002013-03-21T21:31:36.197-05:00I'm glad you know what your recharge is! It so...I'm glad you know what your recharge is! It sounds like you have some great ones!Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-23097539037705724942013-03-21T21:30:59.016-05:002013-03-21T21:30:59.016-05:00Aw, thanks for the super supportive works, Michell...Aw, thanks for the super supportive works, Michelle! I think "recharging" looks different for each mom, and it's in our best interest to find out what that looks like for us personally. I'm glad that you know what you need to do to get a break. Way to go!<br /><br />And thanks for reading about and cheering us on! Comments like yours give my "recharge" an extra "boost!"Rebecca @ A Beautiful Ruckushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12545305649619190456noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-56638392889870659472013-03-21T01:01:23.247-05:002013-03-21T01:01:23.247-05:00Absolutely agree! I'm a mom to (just one!) tod...Absolutely agree! I'm a mom to (just one!) toddler, and it's awesome and hard all at the same time. I'm a better mom when I take time for myself to refresh and recharge and still be *me*. <br /><br />Great post! Debbihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16646839428206080414noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-33847589286636368932013-03-20T09:17:39.115-05:002013-03-20T09:17:39.115-05:00I agree 100% because this is so true.I agree 100% because this is so true.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07603000552657021489noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-59452227356438199702013-03-19T17:09:07.558-05:002013-03-19T17:09:07.558-05:00You should NEVER apologize for taking time for you...You should NEVER apologize for taking time for you. I've played tennis for years every Tuesday and it takes a tragedy for me to miss. My opinion is that if Mama's not happy (and healthy) then no one else is. Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05597500850623653392noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-73558650368328294062013-03-18T15:38:54.127-05:002013-03-18T15:38:54.127-05:00Love this!Love this!Lewhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06798528674417738328noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-53047601206793450792013-03-18T15:10:21.378-05:002013-03-18T15:10:21.378-05:00I definitely agree, and I think this same outlook ...I definitely agree, and I think this same outlook applies to marriage as well. Too many parents put their marriage last and the kids first. I can't tell you how many parents I have seen give their kid 110% but their spouse nothing :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-15799530163872503902013-03-18T13:13:50.000-05:002013-03-18T13:13:50.000-05:00I could not agree more with your first response to...I could not agree more with your first response to the question and now this one. I blog for pretty much the same reasons as you, but most of all I LOVE writing and sharing our story as a testament of God's love for us. I really would like to write a book but seeing that my schedule is pretty busy and don't ever seem to find a spare moment for that. I do make sure to snag the occasional nap and always take a hot shower at the end of the day because "me" time no matter how great or small matters. I like you am totally Type A too (I think that is a common thread with quad mamas) and it's hard for me to slow down, but that's me being me. Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16037459169463515676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-10412209840133105512013-03-18T10:37:07.633-05:002013-03-18T10:37:07.633-05:00I believe that not doing these things - whatever i...I believe that not doing these things - whatever is your favorite use of time - creates resentment, not just for you potentially (resenting your family), but your family can wind up resenting the mom for the guilt that "martyr moms" pour on their kids by spending every moment "sacrificing" for their families. Kristina L.https://www.blogger.com/profile/01974655543122277752noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-62276722643233200782013-03-18T10:27:44.358-05:002013-03-18T10:27:44.358-05:00Rebecca...your relaxing/down time just happens to ...Rebecca...your relaxing/down time just happens to be visible to many. Would anyone question a mom's down time if it involved a long hot soak in a bath? No, because that's what we all can relate to as "relaxing." Your relaxing time is not what most of us would choose or enjoy. BUT, we would all benefit from your type of down time, cuz then we would have so many memories to look back on and cherish when the harried years have past. You, Sean and the children are so blessed that you will all benefit from your "down time" in many years. Some may look at anothers choice of down time and think..."wow, what a waste!!!" We all need to respect what each Mom chooses as their form of having their own cup filled back up so they've got something to keep giving out.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-87469720913364489922013-03-18T10:10:08.940-05:002013-03-18T10:10:08.940-05:00Absolutely! I have three kids, 10, 3, and 2 years...Absolutely! I have three kids, 10, 3, and 2 years old. The one thing I have forced myself to stop doing is feel bad to get out of the house. So what if my husband is serving dinner by himself? If my mom offered to watch the kids, why not let her? I don't have to apologize anymore for taking time for me. Actually, no one else expects me to anyway, I put that on myself. The more I take care of myself, the better mom and wife I am for my family!sarahz13https://www.blogger.com/profile/09210553195447945676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3459178608294921310.post-30544370329813514632013-03-18T09:58:55.747-05:002013-03-18T09:58:55.747-05:00Amen and well-written! I've faced the same qu...Amen and well-written! I've faced the same question (accusation?) and answered it much the same way. Funny, no one faults a mom who watches TV four hours a night. And I don't either--we all need to relax--but my "relaxation" is writing.Merylhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10483427699554329227noreply@blogger.com